Relationships should not be difficult

I have been through various situations where I felt that relationships could not have gotten any more difficult. I just paused and thought to myself, it is we people who make relationships tough to handle. But, we conveniently blame it on the relationship itself or the other person in the relationship. Each of us are such complex creatures when we are in a relationship that it gets really painful for both the people involved in it.

Sometimes, we all feel that relationships are not our cup of tea after going through a rough patch. But the strength in one's character is not in letting our failures affect us to an extent that we loose our faith in people. We do learn a lot from every situation or circumstances in our lives. Most importantly, we understand that relationships dont define us, we define or choose our relationships.

Especially women who have gone through a terrible relationship may feel that dating isn't worth anymore. Probably watching "He just not that into you" would be an eye opener for any woman out there. Looking forward to reading this book :-)

So, do not be under the misconception that relationships are complex. It is we people who make it complex, so look at ways in which you could make your life a lot simpler as we have many relationships to deal with in our lives of being a mother, sister, friend, wife, girlfriend etc

Lord Krishna in Bhagavid Gita

Each of us on this planet for a specific reason and we get more clarity on our purpose in life as each day passes us by. There is so much I have learnt about life and the most important thing is to strike an effective balance between being emotional and practical.

Relationships have thought me a lot in life. Being concerned about myself is the biggest learning I have learnt from being with family, friends and colleagues. Whether I like it or not, whether others around me like it or not, I am concerned about others around me. Sometimes, this could be misunderstood and could back fire too. And, I still haven't learnt from my experiences. By being concerned about others around me and helping them out has only resulted in a lot of misery. Most of them failed to understand my motive and I failed to understand that they don't like any assistance.

Its a Catch 22 situation as you would wish to help but since you have already burnt your fingers you would not wish to do the same again :-) So, my inspiration during these times is Lord Krishna in Bhagvad Gita.

It would be interesting to read and then understand the importance of playing the right cards at the right time.

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi

HAPPY GANESH CHATURTHI TO EVERYONE

HAVE A PROSPEROUS AND A PEACEFUL YEAR



- Roshni

Someday............

Life has thrown a curve ball and I have finally learnt to play it well :-)

There are many more important things in my life at this point in time and very less time on hand to think about any ups or downs or rather the usual feeling "why me?". I believe most of the incidents in my life have question along with the answers for them. There is a reason behind anyone I meet at any walk in my life. And more specifically the timing of the people I meet or the decisions I make have had an immense impact in shaping me as a person. I am always open to feedback even though most of the time I come across as aggressive. And so the process of self discovery has been very fulfilling and challenging.

I love my life a lot to let go because of anyone or any situation. I have always stood for my beliefs and shall always do. I just want to live my life to the fullest and don't like being tied down by any relationship in my life. There is so much to do and so much more to see in this world and my family as well as very few close friends have made it worthwhile for me. I love all of you more than I say it! I do express it most of the times though :P

ICE

If I knew you were frozen,
I would have never made friends with you.
If I only knew you were stuck in the past,
I would have not included you in my present.

Past is Past,
It dead and gone.
Don't kill your present with past experiences,
That was not meant to be for you anyways.

Understand that everyone has a past,
But that should not interfere in your present behavior.
Life is too short to waste it on the past,
We all grow and move on to be more interesting people.

So, my friends its that time of our lives,
When we come to terms with our past.
Forget the pain you went through,
But remember the wonderful moments.

Life is beautiful and to live,
Let us not just survive!

© 2009 roshk79

Kamal Hassan in this role is AMAZING

Kamal Hassan has always been versatile and shall continue being so. It is amazing to see someone who is so passionate about his work and sometimes he does get too self involved that others find him annoying. He is a perfectionist and could get onto some peoples nerve. But, look at this guy being so committed at 50 years plus and he is still going strong.

He is so amazing in the first role of a Vadiyar in Dasavatharam and potrays the character so effectively. I don't think anyone else would have done this kind of justice to the role. His appearance and personality is best suited for this role in the movie. No other role in the movie has this kind of impact on the audience.

It might sound unbelievable but when I was in school there was a movie to be shot with Kamal Hassan which later got shelved. I was spotted by the then Assistant Director of K Balachandar and I was so excited to audition for the role. It was a role opposite the GREAT KAMAL HASSAN. The role was that of a school girl and this movie was shelved around 1994 approximately. A girl from Bishop Cottons, Bangalore was selected but unfortunately the project didn't happen. I think to myself where I would have been at this moment if I had auditioned for that role and also been approached for other opportunities.

I have always been fond of Indian movies and music. I dont think any other movie industry has this kind of diversity and technical expertise. Especially the techicality in the Tamil film industry is far too advanced compared to other film industries in India. South Indian film industry is a lot more innovative and creative compared to the rest of India and most of the people would agree on this. Anything new you would see is from the South and the rest of the world is just aping the west without realizing that their ideas/ styles are so cliched. Very rarely do we see anything with a "Wow" factor and I'm not being biased here since I watch a lot of Hollywood movies and movies from other parts of the world as well.

I am proud to be a part of South India and to be born a South Indian! There is so much raw talent and also talent that needs better platform from here. One day, I plan to do something on this front and want to make documentaries if I don't intend to pursue my doctorate. If anyone knows of short terms courses please leave information in the comments section. I would really appreciate it!

Thank you for taking time to read!

A bird .....

One morning, I found myself near a stream and as usual I am lost in my own reflective phase whenever there is nature around. Since people living in city have to unfortunately make an effort to be amongst nature, I make the most of it when I am amidst nature.

Suddenly, I heard this bird hovering around the trees around the stream. I was trying to spot it and wasn't able to see it, but I was able to hear the bird. From the sound of the bird chirping I could more or less guess it would be small bird. As usual my curiosity was getting onto my nerves and I just wanted to know where was this little bird that was trying to communicate a lot to everything around it. If we carefully listen there is so much more to everything in life, we see and speak a lot but don't pay attention; nor actively hear anyone or anything around us.

This little bird didn't bother if I could see it or not but wanted to spread the message of life around. It was saying that life is too short to waste it on anyone or anything that is useless or trivial or unnecessary. Life is beautiful and no one can make it nice or bad for you. You make your life or break it! Its all that you want you seem to attract. So, from this moment on attract all that you want so the unwanted things dont even occur or happen in your life. As Rhonda rightly said in her book "The Secrets", we all have a magnifienct power to make our lives successful and fulfilling. All we need to do is to start working on the same and believe that we have the power to change our lives and ensure we are content with ourselves!

So, I have heard that message this bird was to convey to me and that has made a lot of difference in the way I look at my life now.

Start looking at things in a different perspective and don't even blame yourself for not having a wonderful life. Instead start your work right now!

© 2009 roshk79

Life is a............

Life is pretty interesting,
You never know what's in store.

Live each day to its fullest,
Never worry but plan for tomorrow.

Life is beautiful so don't waste,
On people or events that will never be there forever.

So, smile and take each day as it comes,
As God has a plan for each of us and its just a matter of time.

© 2009 roshk79

Have the biggest crush on Suriya

Suriya has always been someone I have had a crush on ever since I watched Pitamagan. I have loved watching all of his movies even when I never understood a word of Tamil :-) This is the effect he has had on me and its impeccable.

The other day I got so irritated since I wanted to watch Ayan but couldn't. I've been meaning to watch this movie for a really long time now :-( He was brilliant in Varanam Aayiram. He was superb in Ghajini, hilarious in Pitamagan, kinda attractive in Aaru, sweet in Sillunu Oru Kaadhal (ignore errors in spelling, if any ; smile) and there are so many other movies of his during the earlier days which I haven't watched. Probably I could catch up those too :-) Firstly, I need to make a list of the movies I haven't watched :-) Don't I sound like a teenager crazy about a celebrity, its not like that at all. There is something about Suriya's personality that is so appealing and attracts me.

So, looking forward to meeting Suriya in person and I have a very strong feeling that I would this year :-) More on the same once I actually get to talk to him.

Trust and Respect - two pillars of any relationship

Relationships are wonderful and they give a deeper meaning to our lives. We are all social no matter if an extrovert or an introvert. We long for that companionship, that friendship and love knowingly or unknowingly. Relationships don't define us but we define them to make them successful. Trust and Respect are two important pillars of any relationship that is meant for keeps. Looks or anything that attract us initially are actually not the things our subconscious mind is looking for. As important as it is to be physically appealing, emotional as well as intelligence quotient are the other facets to any person we would be attracted to. Since our world is so dynamic there has to be a lot more than just looks or intelligence or being emotionally comforting.

I keep using the word "we" or "us" a lot in a relationship as its a team and not individualistic. We've got to work as a team together in making our lives a lot more successful. Its so important to compliment each other so that it would be a team functioning successfully under all circumstances. Trust and Respect are those tools which enable any relationship to sail through tough times and live each moment.

I dedicate this post to that special someone in my life and may we discover each other a lot more. We've got the potential and just need to keep sailing as we are, we'll be together someday baby!

Wow! I havent written anything since MAY !!!!

I completely forgot about my blog as I was busy looking for a job and I have started working more than a week back and it is amazing to see what technology can do! I wanted to get into a profile which involved training or education. And this particular role of mine enable me to train and educate people which is amazing for any person who loves interacting with people.

Although distance learning is a totally different ball game, there are lot more opportunities to become a really effective trainer and ensure that the audience is engaged. It is amazing to engage an audience and keep them engaged till the end of the session. And it shouldn't stop there but continue till the trainees go back and look at it in retrospect. The challenges of a trainer as so different when it comes to satellite education. And training people on non technical aspects is a lot more interesting.

I am reminded of the trainers or teachers whose classes I have attended and they were very content driven and didn't ensure that the application of the same is discussed or spoken of. In our lives we do not have sufficient time to sit back and wait for the particular opportunity to knock on our door to experience it. We all have to be ready to take up any task on hand without being anxious or fearful.

It is important to have a program with the content that is crisp and have a high impact on the audience. Also a lot of interaction and probing the audience would help in making the session a fun filled learning experience.

As I would have my first live session this week I would be constantly working on making the session as much interactive and fun filled as possible, without the message getting lost during the session and after that as well. The students should get to to take away a lot back home and think about. Self assessment on many areas of personal development really help in bringing about a change in a person's outlook to life. This helps him/ her perform better in any assignments they would take up as well as encourage them to have a wonderful personal life.

So, as excited and apprehensive I am at the moment I would make the most of the first session I would conduct. More on the same once I finish my first session. Till date I really haven't got a feedback on anything that I have done well so I would have to wait and watch!

Bitchology

I received a mail the other day from a friend and it was about a new term "bitchology" and it said finally there is a term for act of being bitchy :-) The brief summary of the mail said that a woman who stood up for herself and her beliefs is termed as a "bitch". Well, I seriously don't mind being known as one if I believe in my values and beliefs.

It is so ridiculous that the same attributes are appealing to a man and then later he hates the woman due to the same characteristics. Well, talk about being so confused that you aren't sure about why you fell in love with us :-) Come on guys you could do a lot better than this and its called growing up, see this is what i meant by "bitchology".

If I speak my mind I end up being a bitch and I don't care a tiny rat's ass :-) This is the person I am and if that bothers you baby then I cant do anything about it, LOL.

If I can do, so can you!

I had a great time last evening and glad I didn't let people from my past interfere in enjoying myself after a really long time. I've heard and experienced that people always are stuck in the past and that really doesn't help us move forward.

It is such a wonderful experience when you really don't bother about the presence of terrible people from your past. It really showed that I have not blamed myself and have realized that there is a reason for us to meet people whom we do along the way. These people make you realize the person you are and make you want to discover yourself. In fact, I am more than glad to have meet some really terrible people or rather people in terrible situations to realize that life isn't as rosy as I thought it was till a year ago.

Life has been very kind to me and obviously its God's grace and my family's prayers being answered. Their concern for me is so humbling that sometimes I totally forget about myself and do all I can to make them feel loved. I do put my foot down when it is necessary to make them understand that I am cautious of the decisions I make so that it doesn't hurt anyone especially my immediate family and of course a wonderful extension of the same.

I am at a stage in my life where I have to start all over again on the personal and professional front, I have no qualms about the same as long as I keep walking.

I didn't mean to mock at you :-(

I have this disgusting habit of imitating people especially whom I can be myself with. I have experienced this at work as well as my personal life. I probably have even heard of people speaking about this behind my back; that she always mocks at others or makes fun of people.

I didn't realize that it could hurt someone to an extent that it did this evening. I realized what my momma would always tell them that it came across as mocking rather than pulling someones leg or imitating them. I have had been in several situations with my mum where she has gotten irritated with this habit of mine. She always said that I would understand when I was at the receiving end; either someone irritates me this way or gets so angry that they speak their mind in the most effective manner.

Today is that particular day in my life that made me realize that it s unfair to imitate people or irritate them by repeating anything they've said in a similar fashion. All I want to say to my sloppy is that " I don't mean to mock at you and I'm thankful you made me realize that its a nasty habit to imitate people or copy them". Thanks sweetheart.

Trust

The most fragile thing in this world.
Something that is hard to gain,
But easy to loose,
That's when people stop believing you.

I really don't care as I will only hurt myself,
If I took everyone who didn't believe me seriously.
At the end of it all I am the one who should believe in myself,
And unless I don't do that I'll never get there.

So, I believe in myself and discover myself every single day,
Am I not glad that I do this everday.


© 2009 roshk79

Educated??

We all stress on the importance of education and as time passes there are a lot more things added to necessity of being well read. Since education means different things to each of us I would wish to list out my point of view on the same.

Education is strength which enables me with confidence and belief no matter the situation I have to face at any point in my life. Education teaches you to rely on yourself and have complete faith in your decisions/ actions. In my life I have quite a few people who genuinely care for me and I guess I am blessed in that sense. People that care for me have always been open and blatant about their opinion about certain decisions I have had to make in my life. I used to ignore them earlier when they used to initiate a discussion regarding or in some cases tell them that it is my life. However, now I am more open to have discussion with very few people about certain important decisions I would need to make in life.

My brother made me do an interesting exercise today of listing down my priorities randomly in life and it was an eye opener to me about so many things I want but unable to arrange them in a sequence. At this point in time my career is the most important thing to me and that surely figures as the 1st priority in my life. There are other things that follow like discovering myself, going on adventurous vacations, learning to play a guitar and traveling as much as possible. Surprisingly relationship didn't feature much in this list I made this morning. This actually made me realize that I would be getting into a committed relationship only once I have achieved stability on my career front as I cant give that up for anything in life. I'm too ambitious to give it up for anything and would love to have a balanced life once I am stable on the career front.

I would love to thank my bro and SIL for having a wonderful chat with me this morning. I really appreciate that and as you already know you both & Ninni mean a lot to me! Stay the same :-)

Confessions of a blogger

I have been blogging from the beginning of this year and it has been a wonderful way to discover myself and also spend quality time with me or myself :-)

Life has been an incredible rollercoaster ride for me ever since I can recollect and there have been many times when I have bitten off more than I could chew. But I have no regrets as those decisions were solely mine and I did things my way! If we fear to take the path that we want to then we are just surviving and not living. And I want to live my life to the fullest and not merely be a survivor!

I don't want to be frozen and blogging has been an amazing form of expressing my feelings as I write without thinking that I cant do otherwise. I love blogging and enjoy writing anything and everything I think about!

Thank you for reading :-)

Driving is so enjoyable!!!!

It had been a really long time or ages since I actually drove or rather took interest in driving :-) This morning I woke up around quarter to six and wanted to go for a really long drive all by myself. So, I slipped on my shoes and left home on a really long drive. I actually enjoyed it so much that I didn't realize that I drove around for 2 hours.

It was such a beautiful morning and driving on Bangalore roads so early was refreshing. I actually surprise myself quite a lot these days as I'm seeing a totally different side of me :-) Ever since I got out of that lousy relationship last year I have been so relaxed and looking forward to leading a wonderful life ahead! It has been worth living every moment ever since I decided to put an end to my marriage. There is no point working towards something that doesn't have any potential and that's when i decided to put an end to my miserable life.

If not for anything it has made me all the more confident and look forward to leading a beautiful life with all the people I love and cherish being around. Wow, life has never been so interesting and I'm not dreading turning 30 this year :-)

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

I've been hooked onto this show for ages and it really doesn't matter the number of times I watch the same episode over and over again. I can still laugh as they are an amazing group of personalities.

Each of the character is portrayed beautifully and the casting is just too perfect. Jennifer Aniston was to play Monica but I'm glad she was Rachel :-) Ross, Chandler and Joey are the cutest set of guys I've ever known. Phoebe, I could relate to a lot and I really like her happy go lucky way of leading life.

Monica is finicky about things being in order and there are some things that I could relate to like the side of bed I would want to sleep and keeping things organized. But, the level of this sickness is not as bad as Monica yet :-) Rachel, I could relate to when it comes to relationships and her career; as in the beginning she isn't sure about her career and then goes onto getting one of the best jobs of her life. Phoebe is too hilarious and I guess anyone who knows me would agree that you relate me to that attribute of her.
I just love these guys as they bring a smile to my face and when I'm stressed I would want to watch them for an hour or so as they lighten my spirit. I will never stop watching you guys and would want to get the entire collection someday as it is worth every penny! Love you :-)

Results of my personality test :-)

ENFP's are described as:

Extroverted and outgoing
Would rather be with a group of people than spend time alone
Frequently the center of attention, may be the lfe of the party
Talks a lot
Very comfortable
Truly enjoys meeting new people and does not hesitate to start up conversations with strangers
Easy to know what they are thinking, because they do their thinking out loud
Intuitive and imaginative
Big picture oriented, does not enjoy details
Prefers dealing with theory, concepts and the abstract
Tends to focus on the future and what is in their minds rather than what is happening around them in the present
Typically does not pay much attention to what their five senses are telling them i.e. hearing, seeing etc
Likes to see patterns and the underlying meaning of things
Enjoys mental and cerebrial activities over physical activites
Good memory for concepts and theories but not good at remembering details and numbers
Thrives on ambiguity and the unknown
Values people's feelings
Usually warm and caring
Very sensitive, easily hurt
Easy to get to know
More concerned with how people feel than what makes logical sense
Strong sense of values i.e. what is right and wrong
Likes to ask trusted friends what they think before making a decision
Being organized is not all that important
Experiencing as many things a possible is extremely important
Plans, schedules and goals are sometimes useful but not critical for enjoying life
Being flexible and adaptable is critical to enjoying life
With so many things to do, projects usually don't get finished until the last minute
Life is a continuos, flowing process

ENFP's prefer careers where:

* Management allows people to be self directed * The work itself is personally meaningful and has value * Decisions and actions at work are in sync with your personal values * The work offers the opportunity to rapidly change direction and to respond to problems as they arise * The work is fun and allows for some spontaneity * The work allows you the opportunity to work with and meet a wide variety of people, rather than working alone most of the time * The work moves at a rapid, exciting pace * The environment and culture gives you opportunities to think through your ideas by talking about them * The work involves theory and speculation * The job is action oriented and provides for a wide variety of activities rather than being highly focused on a few tasks * The work involves creativity, imagination and a creative approach to problem solving * The work involves looking beyond the present i.e. future possibilities, future products, future actions * The work is not limited to what exists today but involves "what may be" and "what could be" * The atmosphere allows you to be warm and caring and to build strong interpersonal relationships * The environment allows for freedom and flexibility and is loosely structured without too many rules

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length - Robert Frost

Well, I have read this quote earlier too and always thought it made so much sense. Happiness or sadness are such phases in our lives as nothing is permanent. I would look forward to finding eternal bliss in anything I decide to take up in life as happiness culminates into different things as we grow.

Happiness is contagious and I would not hesitate to spread the same around whosoever I am with. There is so many cynics around so people could use some joy or laughter. Being positive is the only way we can attract positive things in our lives so never stop being optimistic. Life is too beautiful and short to waste it on cribbing, sulking or staying unhappy.

Some of the things you could look forward to is to make a list of things that you would wish to accomplish or engage in. We would need to ensure that we keep the list to 10 things that are simple and short term. I am not talking about long term goals but small things that could bring about a lot of difference to our lives. Anything that would help you discover yourself and enrich your life as well as others around you.

Happiness is not temporary but its the state of mind. So, go find your happiness today! Thanks for reading :-)

Show me the money!

Well, I don't intend to say this to anyone except to myself because my love doesn't cost a thing. I know that this sounds stereotypical but that's the truth. I would want to be with someone as I like being with that special person. As an educated person I could address my "materialistic needs".

Money is the such a pathetic reason to be with someone and its just a lame excuse to not move your butt. I cant even understand if this you are in a desperate situation. We can live our life the way we want to but its not as easy as just wanting it. Only when you go through a bad phase do you realize that people value money more than relationships. I am not surprised as most of the people are living their lives this way. It is important to have sufficient money to support yourself and also handle other commitments by choice and not force :-)

So, there are many occasions where you would need to value money but don't loose yourself in this game of life!

Wishful thinking......

I am actually smiling when I am writing this post :-) Sometimes we get very excited in life thinking about certain situation/s in our lives. I've been abundantly blessed with such situations and probably that makes my life a lot more interesting :-) I'm really happy that I got to know myself a lot better through all those situations. It gives a lot more clarity or rather purpose for living. I was surviving till now and finally I am living my life to the fullest!

Sometimes it is good to be the "wishful thinking" kinds cause it surely has seemed to work for me beautifully. If you really want something sincerely in your life you will tend to attract it and I completely believe in this. Be it career, relationships, wealth, lifestyle etc. Knowing yourself completely can change your outlook to life and everything that you are a part of. We are all just a part of the universe and each of us are here for a reason. I really don't appreciate the idea of people taking their own lives because they feel hopeless or that life isn't worth living. Life is a lot more beautiful and unexpected things can happen which will sweep you off your feet. It will shock you as deep down you know that this is life you always wanted.

So, do ensure that you wish for the things that you actually feel the importance for in your life. Life will surprise you as people or situations enter your professional or personal life.

Family....

Family is such an integral part of my life. They have been with me through thick and thin, anything that they say or do is in my best interest. My folks have really made us understand the importance of a family is to stick together through all the times.

There are situations in which I would feel claustrophobic being overprotected. At the same time I realize that they love me so much and that's the reason they don't want me to hurt again. It really doesn't help when you are PMSing. I just realized how vulnerable we are during this time and its a catalyst for a person who is short fused.

Sometimes I really loose my cool when I'm treated like a kid and my decisions are never taken at face value. This goes beyond my personal life too and sometimes the intrusion is so extreme that I end up telling them to just let me handle my life.

It will take a lot of time before they could believe that I could take care of myself and not get into anything that would eventually hurt me. Well, I really understand where they come from and I have communicated that the style of conveying a message makes a lot of difference when one needs to be treated as a grown up.

Bitten by the bug or would be? Never know

Love


Everyone defines love in their own way,
Does that really matter?
Love means a lot of trust and respect for one another,
This is my way of defining love.

When you feel that the need for one that special someone doesn't exceed what you feel for one another,
You are in love and god help you!
Because this is what being in love feels like actually.


Giving time and understanding each other,
Is all that is required to take it to the next level.
Patience and emotions don't work well together,
Unless you would know how to time them well.

So, for all those who are feeling like this or are looking for that special someone,
Believe me it will come to you if it is meant to be!
Running behind it will only make things worse,
Know yourself first and then you'll know what you want out of your love.

© 2009 roshk79

Trust???

Even though the people around you seize to trust you, never stop believing in yourself. And wanting something in life and actually finding it is not something that everyone would actually pursue. There are certain stages in your life when you feel like you would want to be heard without anyone judging you. It hurts the most when people who you care about start judging you and are not patient enough to hear your side of the story.

During these times is when you would need to trust in yourself. I would want every experience in my life to be the one I look back and smile on. There could have been some really unexpected things that you would have realized about myself and this was possible because I living my life and not just surviving. I know that all of this sounds really simple to write about but when you actually have to live it each single day you will realize the challenges.

It is difficult for anyone to understand that you are not handling the things in the same manner as you have been previously. Especially when your past plays a barrier in any area that you would want to have it the way you always perceived it to be. There are several options we have in our lives especially in our world today. And more convinced we are about the path that we want to take it makes things a lot more relaxing for everyone around you too.

So, I strongly believe in making the best of my life and don't regret any incident in my life cause they are responsible in moulding me to a person I am today. And I love myself now and getting to know a lot more about my personality every single day. So, I believe that trusting myself was the first step in beginning to love myself.

More travel ....

Alaska has been added to my really long list of places to visit. Wow, I really love this place and can so relate to the life in this region. I am more of an outdoor person and this is a wonderful place to explore. I had heard of the Alaskan cruise but the other day I really liked the different way this region was being explored on Travel and Living.

Seeing the huskies pups I was reminded of the pets I had as a child and I really miss them so much. I so badly want to get another dog home but no one else loves animals as much as I do at my place :-(

The most exciting part of this region is the wildlife :-) the grizzly bears, seals, penguins, whales, birds and reptiles. All so exciting and seeing the huskies ride people around it was so amazing. They are such adorable animals with so much strength.

There is so much to do and explore in this region and I would be looking forward to my time there. More when I actually visit the place :-)

Haunts if you let it....

Past is something none of us can escape,

The more you run it will chase you.

If you are still living in the past,

Then you are ruining your present too.

I know that we would have those done things in our best interest,

Something we cannot change or shouldn't regret.

It doesnt matter how judgemental people around you get,

Sooner or later they would realize :-)

As they say that time is the best healer!

Let time handle things for you and not haunt you

© 2009 roshk79

Second poem :-)

Time goes by.....

There is something which is most important in our lives,
And that goes tick tick all the time.
But it is most miraculous as,
It seems to have answers to all our questions.

We realize the importance of giving time when we are in certain situations,
For which you do have an answer but would need to be convinced.
And no one except you can get a reply to the same,
Ensure that you give time its chance to answer any concern you may have.

The decision that you take after taking time out,
Will change everything in your life and bring eternal bliss!


© 2009 roshk79

First poem :-)

Expectations

I look here and there,
All I see is expectation in every relationship.
It does not surprise me as its something natural.
I would be shocked to witness one without any expectations

Through these expectations that make our lives interesting,
We sail through our lives and learn about others around us.
Life is interesting sometimes due to these expectations,
As none of us can imagine living our lives any other way.

We are accustomed to leading our lives in this manner.
Always have and always would be!


© 2009 roshk79

Road we take.....

We all have our strengths and weaknesses but do we recognize them. I'm sure we all have occasions where we tend to satisfy our ego more than thinking clearly.

But I somehow cant seem to understand certain things in my life and there always have been situations I am put into which are complex for others to understand. We all want a peaceful life and no one looks at getting into a complicated circumstance/s. It is true that we tend to attract certain things subconsciously and would realize presence of certain things in our lives after a while?

Each of us are looking at having a normal life which could be with our relationships, career, money etc etc And, it seems like a crime to be able to want something in life and actually tell the people you love, about the same. They would perceive you to be selfish at that moment and a person who seems to be thinking just about themselves. I have been in situations where my values have been questioned and I really don't blame anyone for it. It actually helps me evaluate my life from various angles.

Every relationship in this world is based on expectation/s and anyone denying the same isn't honest to themselves. We have our parents, siblings, relatives, friends, colleagues etc who expect things from us even when we've set certain expectations. Is it selfish to want a nice life for yourself? Is it bad to think about yourself? I haven't really evaluated my life so much earlier but I feel the importance to do so at this point in time more so than ever.

Whenever, anyone close has told me anything really personal I have never judged them and I feel that everyone is like me. This is one of the biggest mistake I've ever made to think that people are not judgemental and would wait for sometime before coming to any conclusion. No one knows anyone completely and no matter how straightforward you are its impossible to talk about everything you feel or want in life. So, it is wrong to expect from others not to be judgemental as every person is in someway judging someone. More often than not it is usually another person than the situation itself. This is something that ruins any relationship on this planet.

Having unreasonable expectations in life or expecting others to fulfill them for you is just another excuse in life. I know that I am being blunt here but we all know ourselves better than anyone else so how can anyone else tell you whats best for you. I totally agree that people who love you would want to protect you and give their opinion without hesitating. I really appreciate honesty and being straightforward but not emotionally blackmailing someone to get your way.

Well, its not that I'm getting younger by the day and I have taken responsibility for each decision in my life. I don't believe in regretting but I do believe in confessing if Ive made a mistake. My ego level isn't unhealthy that would refrain me from saying that I was wrong or made a wrong choice in life.

I have made several decisions in life with best interest but I didn't realize at that point in time that lot of people were sitting there and judging me. I still end up talking to the people who have been sarcastic to me and have had several opinions about the way I handled situation/s. Well, I don't know if I prefer doing things the toughest possible way always because I tend to attract such things in life subconsciously. Well, my way of looking at such situations is totally different. I know what I want in life and hence I tend to attract those things into my life. I don't hesitate wanting certain things in my life based on the past experiences that I have had with respect to my career and relationship especially. For me these two things are really important in defining who I am. I would rather find the ways to define my life beautifully and even if I have to go through the toughest possible path I would not dread.

I believe in myself and strongly feel that I have had certain events in my life have had a very good reason for their occurrence. I don't regret any decision I have made in the past cause nothing good can come out of it. We cant expect to forgive and move on if we don't start with coming to terms with ourselves first. I would be adding more to this post as and when I do feel like.

Kickboxing

Has anyone tried kickboxing earlier? I've been meaning to get into it more so for the purpose of remaining fit and also it would be cool to defend myself :-) If you have tried kickboxing do leave me your feedback on the same so that I can make up my mind about the same.

Since I haven't gotten to hear from anyone I know about kickboxing I would either have to give it a try or wait for someone to respond to this post of mine. So, if you have tried kickboxing do let me know your experience and your words of wisdom for amateurs like me :-)

Take care and have a nice day!

Its been a long time since i actually watched a play!

I always enjoyed watching plays since and being a part of them too. I cant recollect the last time I actually was a part of a play. Wow, it has been a really long time. I've been meaning to attend a theatre workshop for a really long time now and I guess I would have to now cause I have time on hand. But isn't it ironic that when you want to really spend you are unable to :-) Its really easy to ask my folks for the money but I somehow can get myself to do that.

I would have to make best of the location i reside in cause there is an interesting theatre close by to my place. Its been awhile since i actually watched a play and so looking forward to watching one soon!

Also want to attend a workshop in theatre so lets see how that pans out!

Have a fabulous weekend and thanks for reading :-)

Life is pretty challenging at this point in time

Well, I feel that life at this point in time is pretty challenging and interesting at the same time. I was just reading this article about the change we go through when we enter 30s'. I could relate to every word in that article and felt like I had written it myself.

I am really enjoying every moment on the verge of entering 30s' and believe me its really interesting. When I hear about others being worried about growing older I feel that they are missing out on a lot of things in life. Age is something that we don't control but our life can be as we want it to be :-)

We are no longer the same women who are trying to convince others about our views or way of leading our lives. And, another thing that I really enjoy now is spending quality time with friends, family and myself. And gone are the days when women had to sacrifice all their happiness or ambitions in life. We see a lot of change in the way women think today. One of the reasons behind a lot of discussions happening around the globe on Internet as well as other media forms.

I can't ask for anything more since I have a supportive family who are concerned about my happiness than living for the society. That's something I always believed in cause if you really care about the society there are wonderful things you could do apart from being so interfering in others lives. Most of us are really caught up in our own lives to realize this and it would make it all the more challenging for people who are interested about others lives than their own :-) Happy that something good has materialized from this crazy lifestyle each of us lead :-)

Take care and thank you for reading!

Communication : key that opens any lock

Communication is so important and there are so many people assume that others understand them even if thing are never communicated. And body language is such an important part of our communication, more than we'll ever realize. This explains a pair of eyes and ears each of us have. To make up for most of the things unsaid :-)

I always prefer to talk things out rather than let people assume things. I would not like to make an ass of you and myself :-)

I used to be a terrible at listening earlier and have realized that we miss a lot of vital information when we actually don't pay attention. So, i realized its nice to be calm and peaceful listening to others. Once they are done you can continue :-) Otherwise it would be senseless exchange of words or a one sided conversation. More of a monologue!

Communication can be with oneself too and you may be surprised at this. So many times I talk to myself and get some insights into most of the issues to be addressed on daily basis. No one knows us much better than we do so enjoy the little talks you could have with yourself. I know that I may be sounding really weird but the little voice inside wants to be heard so listen!

Alright if i continue writing about this probably some people who think I'm a little sane would refrain from talking to me ... LOL.

Take care and have a fabulous day! Thanks for reading :-)

Hero comes along.....

Hero by Mariah Carey is my all time favorite song. Well worded and excellent performance by Mariah.

Its so true that there is answer for anything within your soul and most of us do not look deep within. I can so relate to this song especially now more than ever in my life. I'm surprised at realizing my potential for being strong during the worst of times. I really owe it to my family cause they have been more than supportive. I love them! And cant stop saying it or writing about it :-)

It is during the toughest times we realize our potential and most of the times I feel that these times make you all the more stronger. There are lessons to be learnt in life and there is a lot to gain from any tough phase in our lives. Looking back I can only smile and realize how vulnerable I was and let people take me for granted. I kept quiet whenever I heard stories about myself and now its amusing cause I know that time will give me a chance to prove myself. This I owe it to my family especially who have been such a big support in my life and I couldn't have asked for more. Sometimes even now I feel low as you can forgive people but cant completely erase things from your memory or redo them. But instantly I feel blessed thinking of the people around me and everything seems to fall in place :-)

I love my life and treat it with more respect than ever before!

Forgive sounds gud forget I'm not sure I cud

They say that time heals and maybe it does but I prefer understanding rather than forgetting. It impossible for me forget but I don't want to remain bitter. And writing this down really helps me get it out of my system. Sometimes being sensitive really isn't helpful at all. So, I'm writing this for all those people who have been terribly hurt in a relationship and are sensitive to handle themselves after a breakup.

Some psycho out there who wouldn't mind screwing up another person's life to just satisfy their ego. Probably you were not interested with them in the past for whatsoever reason but there are actually people who wouldn't stop till they hurt you. I mean they could go to any extent to destroy your life. For instance getting married to someone and making them feel like shit could be one of the ways it would be done.

And since its still a man's world, the first thing they try to do is hurt your loved ones and try to destroy their lives too. Oh! yes the classic make the woman look like shit by washing dirty linen in the public. I must admit that such men are a Satan reincarnated. And, I totally believe in karma and they will have to face the music of hurting a sincere person in the relationship.

Long live such people and since what goes around comes around they will realize by themselves about their deeds. I really cant tolerate men who don't respect women and treat them like objects. Well, I think we are emotionally stronger and would eventually move on. But I always want to this positivity to remain within me and there maybe phases when we are shaken up but the key is to remain the same positive person you've always been.

Wow, this has been a really intense blog for me cause I've pretty much poured our my heart. I've met such manipulative people that probably I could soon be writing a book on identifying and dealing with manipulators. Yes, also about the hypocrisy which rules our society.

Love story - Taylor Swift feel this way but Dixie Chicks " I'm not ready to make nice" haunts me from past

We were both young when I first saw you
I close my eyes
And the flashback starts
I'm standing there
On a balcony in summer air

See the lights

See the party, the ball gowns

I see you make your way through the crowd

And say hello, little did I know

That you were Romeo, you were throwing pebbles

And my daddy said stay away from Juliet

And I was crying on the staircase

Begging you please don't go, and I said

Romeo take me somewhere we can be alone

I'll be waiting all there's left to do is run

You'll be the prince and I'll be the princess

It's a love story baby just say yes

So I sneak out to the garden to see you

We keep quiet 'cause we're dead if they knew

So close your eyes

Escape this town for a little while

'Cause you were Romeo, I was a scarlet letter

And my daddy said stay away from Juliet

But you were everything to me

I was begging you please don't go and I said

Romeo take me somewhere we can be alone

I'll be waiting all there's left to do is run

You'll be the prince and I'll be the princess

It's a love story baby just say yes

Romeo save me, they try to tell me how to feel

This love is difficult, but it's real

Don't be afraid, we'll make it out of this mess

It's a love story baby just say yes

Oh oh

I got tired of waiting

Wondering if you were ever coming around

My faith in you is fading

When I met you on the outskirts of town, and I said

Romeo save me I've been feeling so alone

I keep waiting for you but you never come

Is this in my head? I don't know what to think

He knelt to the ground and pulled out a ring

And said, marry me Juliet

You'll never have to be alone

I love you and that's all I really know

I talked to your dad, go pick out a white dress

It's a love story baby just say yes

Oh, oh, oh, oh'

Cause we were both young when I first saw you

I'm with you - Avril Lavigne

Im standing on the bridge
Im waiting on the dark
I thought that you'd be hereby now
There's nothing but the rain no foot steps on the ground
Im listening but ther's no sound

Isn't anyone trying to find me

Won't somebody come take me home

It's a damn cold night

Trying to figure out this life
Won't you take me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don't know

who you are but I

Im with you

Im with you

Im looking for a place
Im searching for a face
Is anybody here I know

Cause nothing's going right

And everything's a mess

And no one likes to be alone

Isn't anyone trying to find me
Won't somebody come take me home
It's a damn cold night
Trying to figure out this life
Won't you take me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don't know who you are
But I Im with you
Im with you

Oh!

Why is every thing so confusing?
Maybe Im just out of my mind

Yeah yeah yeah...It's a damn cold night

Trying to figure out this life
Won't you take me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don't Know Who You are
But I Im with you
Im with you
Take me by the hand
Take me somewhere new
I don't Know Who You are
But I Im with you
Im with you

Take me by the hand

Take me somewhere new

I don't Know Who You are

But I Im with you

Im with you

Can I get more creative? I think so.......

Creativity :-)

Well, I have discovered that I can manage to paint and would look forward to painting a lot more. Here are some of my creations .... lol

Easy to talk to, easy to get?

Out of my experience I have come across men who find you approachable to have a conversation assume that its easy to get whatsoever they want out of you. And, when that doesn't happen people start making up stories which can be very creative. So typical are the stories which they share with other guys or gals or whatever :-)

They even go to an extent of damaging a woman's character to just satisfy their ego. For any man who approaches a woman it could either be that he just wants to have fun or is looking at spending his life with her. More often than not its just for having a good time. Believe me no man would really think of actually wanting to know a woman without any agenda on mind. Heard this from a few friends that I have and are married now. So, they really dont mind talking about it :-)

So, the other day I was watching Ellens and completely believe in "Act like a lady, think like a man", when in situations of a man approaching you for a conversation .... lol.

Don't forget that you too will get older one day

Sometimes the things I see and hear around me affects me a lot. And, thought of putting down my thoughts on my blog.

I don't understand how your behavior towards an elderly person changes just because they are old. We need to remember that we too will grow old and just imagine someone treating you like you are a burden. Most of them treat their own family member in such weird manner like growing older is a bad thing or something.

I am a strong believer in "what goes around comes around"! If you can't do good to anyone at least don't make them feel bad or sad. Leave them alone if you can't tolerate them. This is what most of the people feel "tolerate" an old person like they are not human beings just like us.

Compassion starts with your family members and then extends to people around you. It is nice to be bothered about oneself but don't make that your world only. People may find that whatever I have written is not practical but the same people will grow old one day and be treated in the same way. We need to put an end to treating people badly or speaking before we think as it would really hurt someone. Especially public humiliation is the worst thing anyone can witness or washing dirty linen in public or fabricating things.

Be true to yourself first and ask yourself one question. Are you happy about treating an elderly person without respect or compassion. They don't ask for much you know, its just few nice words. If you cant do that much then you are not leading an enriching life. Treat others with respect and it really doesn't matter what they do for a living or how old they are or how dependant they are.

There is a wonderful line in the movie "Maid in Manhattan". Its spoken by one of the managers who resigns his job in the hotel service industry. "What we do, doesn't define who we are". So, it really doesn't matter how rich you are or what you have achieved unless you can love unconditionally and look at everyone as you would like to see yourself. Don't believe in things like "Do unto others what they do unto you". It really doesn't make you a better person.

Phew! I just had to let this out of my system cause it really bothers me when there are events or situations I hear about or witness myself. Remember folks or family members are the same people who taught you how to walk and held you when you were about to fall. Why can't we reciprocate same when they love us so unconditionally.

Had an interesting Monday

Well, yesterday I had an opportunity to visit my cousin's factory. They are into retail fixtures and had started small but doing well. They have moved to a new facility and it was amazing to actually look at those gigantic machines and people at work. It is always interesting to understand a totally different industry from the one I've always been a part of.

I am so proud of my brother as he is a self made man and a great inspiration to all of us in our family. This is a wonderful example of actually going out there and achieving his goals. Its gives you a really remarkable high no other spirit can substitute. I'm sure all of us experience this when we perform well at our jobs. But this kind of an achievement is really a positive energy for us youngsters who look up to him.

I really liked the way the factory has been designed and its wonderful to know that someone so close to you has achieved so much with hard work and of course being street smart. I really enjoyed the conversation I had with my brother yesterday and it had been ages since we actually spoke and spoke.

Meditation can be really challenging

Well, I just started meditating a couple of days ago and realized that it isn't easy to sit for one session even if its just for 10 mins. I'm glad I opted for primordial sound meditation as it was simple to follow.

Just start with 10 mins a day and ideally should have 20-30 mins sessions once in the morning and again the evening. I has been quite a task to actually stay calm and peaceful for 10 mins. But I just love the feeling after those 10 mins and I learnt that you don't run into or out of meditation. You really have to experience the calmness and peace once you are through with your session.

Primordial meditation is a combination of using mantra and also concentrating on your breathing. It is so amazing how Deepak Chopra has put it in a simple format online. Anyone can learn this simple form of meditation being practised in ancient India.

Human beings = complications = relationships

Many people say that relationships are complicated. However, I feel that it is us humans who make it complicated or complex. Any relationship can be simple provided there are no unrealistic expectations from them. Once you have expectations from a relationship it is bound to end up being complex.

The moment you stop expecting things to happen everything will fall in place and being oneself solves most of the issues. That is the expectation one should set while beginning a relationship and not have expectations instead from the other person.

As we get older we begin to understand more about relationships and what we actually want from our partner. Sometimes we have heard people tell us take all the time to know the other person before getting into a serious relationship. And we would have also heard that years and years of knowing each other isn't good enough to keep people together.

We can either like or dislike a person but that should be only after a decent period of time i.e. quality time spent together. Being possessive beyond a certain extent is also harmful to any relationship and at the same time not being possessive at all can cause issues.

In a relationship it is difficult to define one's space and since its subjective there is no standard for the same. I believe in respecting one's space in a relationship cause everyone has their likes/ dislikes. No two people are the same so its unfair to expect the other person to adapt to your lifestyle completely or to whatever extent you want them to adapt themselves.

Oh yes, the clinging types can surely get on your nerves. More often than not I've observed people being insecure who cling a lot to their partners. This is just my observation and I could not be right in all the cases :-) But yes the clinging types do get on my nerves.

So after having had this discussion with several friends of mine I know for sure that it us who make things complicated and its not the relationships that do :-)

Thank you for taking time to read!

Haven't met anyone with great sense of humor whom I'm attracted to!

Every now and then when you are single people ask you the kind of person you would like to meet or spend your life with. For me it has to be amazing sense of humor and intelligence. I generally don't go by looks cause as you age that really doesn't matter. The spirit of the person is what actually counts and I like to be with a person because of who he is and not for what he has become.

I truly don't believe in the idea of having to change someone cause that wouldn't last for long :-) And, I would love to be myself as well cause I believe in it. If you don't like who I am that's fine, at least I wont waste my time and yours. After all once you live under one roof you will have to be yourself and cant pretend to be someone else for longer. So, be yourself is my mantra!

Communication is such a vital part of any relationship and so it trust. If we don't share our views or anything else for that matter I really don't understand the idea of being in a relationship. As we grow we understand that you need to be with someone who likes you for the person you are.

Everyone has their own criteria, but if a man can't make me laugh then he is not the right person for me. Laughter is a great therapy and sometimes even in the most serious circumstances having a good sense of humor helps. Its so important to know what you want out of a relationship so that you don't spend time with the wrong sort.

I would look forward to meeting this kind of a person and I really don't mind how long it takes but I'd rather have a wonderful person in my life or no one at all.

Painting town red! Beware

Just thought of writing this cause my boss happened to mention this in a discussion we were having. It so true, not to be emotionally dependent on anyone is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. This usually happens when you are in love. And if you are sensitive beware cause "someone is gonna get a hurt real bad". Reminded of Russell Peters ;-)

As youngsters we really don't understand the consequences of getting into wrong relationships. Well, for me I'm highly sensitive and end up getting hurt and its tough to bounce back. Sometimes, I wonder if the same time was probably spent productively rather than on a relationship we could be content with life. But there are lessons to be learnt and I did the hard way. Others learn it from people around them and I'm sure my recklessness in painting the town red has benefited many lives :-) Many have judged me based only that aspect of life forgetting the person I am. I have no regrets cause I have learnt from my experiences and clear of what I want in my life.

Reflecting back on the time spent bouncing back and loosing out on many opportunities career wise or otherwise I sometimes laugh. Crying or getting angry or guilty for that matter wouldn't really help me. Speaking to a couple of my friends or acquaintances who chose to learn things the hard way we all realize during tough times who are true friends are. And family is the best thing that can happen to any of us as they never judge us :-)

Ugadi - New Year!!!!

Happy Yugadi or New Year to all the people celebrating it today!!! "Yuga" mean year and "adi" means beginning so it marks the beginning of an year.

I was so excited when we went and shopped for the festival yesterday as this marks the beginning of the new year for people in Karnataka, Andra Pradesh and Maharashtra. We begin the day by taking oil bath and offering prayers. As I am a Kannadiga we have "bevvu bella" which is neem buds or flowers and jaggery. This symbolizes that life has happiness & sadness, success & failure etc. We must learn to accept these as a part of our lives and begin the year being positive.

The whole family gets together and has a nice and interesting meal. Some of the things usually made are "holige" or "bobatlu" which is a delicacy and must try if you haven't. Its also known as "puranpoli". It is usually eaten warm/ cold with ghee and milk. Its yummy and must try, especially the one "belle holige" filled with Bengal gram & jaggery.

The elderly usually read the "Panchanga" i.e. almanac to get an idea of the year ahead. It is a ceremony observed by very few people today and I'm glad mom did read it for us :-)

P.S: the picture is of holige

Can you really judge me?

Judging others is the worst thing would one could do. The only person who is going to miss out on a lot of things is the person who is judging you. Many judgements are based on what one has heard and may not have seen. Sometimes, I don't think that seeing is believing too cause one could be misunderstood or misinterpreted. And there are many talented people who would like seeing others in misery so they can go to any extent to make a person look like the worst human being on earth.

I've always experienced that leading a straightforward lifestyle isn't an easy one. But, I am not here to please anyone and as seasons change so have people who have judged me in the past. It hilarious when they approach you again like nothing has ever happened. And I don't want to be a smallest person on this planet not to forgot and forgive them.

When I meet someone I am not at all judgemental cause situations and circumstances may have made anyone respond in a certain manner. One may achieve success in a short period of time but if you are not true to yourself then what have you gained? Ask yourself this question and next time you meet someone give them a chance to be themselves and only time will showcase the true character of a person. And no one is an angel, so I believe that take the best of any person and leave the rest. I've been meaning to write this for a really long time and it has finally materialized today.

Thank you for reading!

Single but not lonely

Its almost a year since I'm single and for the first time in my life I'm not feeling empty or lonely. I really don't miss the need to share my life with someone cause there are so many things I've wanted to do like discover myself and understand what I really want in life.

Sometimes we are so caught up our mechanic lifestyle that we forget about ourselves. This is not being selfish according to me and knowing oneself completely is a totally different high. And only the people who actually know themselves would understand what I mean!

Relationships teach you a lot and the most important thing is that your family & friends who really care will always be with you :-) I'm the luckiest person on earth since I have a lovely family and few good friends. I still love to meet people from different cultural backgrounds or otherwise as I get a different perspective to life. Recently, I've got a chance to interact with so many new people and its amazing knowing each of them and sharing our views on anything in general.

There are opportunities everywhere even during so called "bad times" but most of us don't really look. All we have to do is, be open to accept people and situations as they are and make the best of it. You will truly surprise yourself when you start looking at things with a different perspective. At least I have surprised myself :-)

I remember writing another piece on whether relationships define us or we define them. I can relate to that completely during the last couple of months. And the best part is I haven't turned bitter after going through bad phases in my life. I still believe that there is a good reason for anything that happens in our lives. I don't regret any decision I have taken and in the process learnt a lot about life and people :-)

I just love spending quality time with myself and I keep discovering really interesting things each day. Finally I love myself :-) Yippeeeee!!!!!

Love's Secret - wonderful poem thought of sharing it with everyone

Never seek to tell thy love,

Love that never told can be;

For the gentle wind does move

Silently, invisibly.

I told my love,

I told my love, I told her all my heart;

Trembling, cold, in ghastly fears,

Ah! she did depart!
Soon as she was gone from me,

A traveler came by, Silently, invisibly

He took her with a sigh.

- William Blake

A Divine Image

Cruelty has a human heart,

And Jealousy a human face;

Terror the human form divine,

And secrecy the human dress.
The human dress is forged iron,

The human form a fiery forge,

The human face a furnace seal'd,

The human heart its hungry gorge.

- William Blake

Women fancy men with big cars, only women??

Well, I was just reading newspaper this morning and read something so hilarious about women being attracted to men with fancy cars. Wow, seriously this reminds me of the song "material girl" by Madonna.

Even some ads are so hilarious and project that you can have a woman if you show off. But come on guys, like you have nothing apart from our materialistic possessions that women can get attracted to you? I've heard so many men boast about fancy cars or whatever they possess and it seems to boost their self esteem.

Seriously, the world is so materialistic and selfish and that's the reason for so many people being low during these bad times in our economy. If we learnt to share and not be greedy I'm sure there would be sufficient for everyone. Rich are still not being affected by the so called "Recession" and they wont be cause they don't want to share. Even if there is a small population of people that share it doesn't make a big difference in a country like India. I'm sure all of us can go our bit and it need not necessarily be contributing out of your pocket. At least volunteering for some social cause would help you being about awareness to others around.

For once think about others and not the usual I, me or myself :-)

Being overprotected :-(

I guess all of us feel this way about our parents. They get all the more protective if you have been hurt over and over again. Sometimes, taking impulsive decisions can really get you into a lot of trouble. We don't realize that being impulsive could be troublesome until we fall on our face :-)


But I guess there are different kind of people some are astronauts and others astronomers. I've remember this from Jurassic Park III and its so true. Some of us are so cautious to take certain risks in our lives and others learn a lot by taking risks.

It is kind of claustrophobic when folks are overprotective but I guess we will always remain their child no matter even how old we get. And, it also feels nice that parents will love you unconditionally. I love my family :-)

Handle carefully its fragile

Trust is one thing you can't gain easily but you could loose it in a moment. I'm sure each of us would have experienced this.

It is the most fragile factor in our lives and whether we like it or not we have to learn to trust people even after going through a rough phase. It is impossible to live your life to the fullest if you don't trust people. It is important not to turn bitter after going through bad times. We are all responsible for our actions and we need to trust ourselves first before expecting others to trust us. We don't have to prove ourselves to anyone but learn to accept people the way they are.

I used to defend myself earlier when people had their doubts about me. But now, I know myself more than I did before so and trust myself completely. As long as we handle ourselves there is no need to think otherwise.

Relationships: do we define or defined by it

I suddenly thought of this while talking a walk this morning. Who we are should not be defined by our relationships but by our own individuality. There are lots of people whom you meet and we may never see them again or they are with you for a certain period before you part. But that should not make the person you are.

Everyone has a reason for being on this planet and each of us are gifted. We just need to get to know ourselves better to identify our potential. And no one actually helps you find yourself and you've got to do it yourself.

When you know yourself well then you will see that you are in the right kind of relationships and hang around with like minded people. I was just speaking to one of my favorite uncle and we were discussing an interesting thing. We don't have to prove ourselves to anyone and people who want to be with you shall accept you as you are. There is no use reforming anyone or yourself cause then you wouldn't be your actual self. Everyone has the right to lead the kind of life they want to lead and we choose the life we lead. And the integral part of our lives are our relationships. So, I would believe that we define relationships and not the other way around.

Stopping By Woods On A Snowy Evening - Robert Frost

Whose woods these are I think I know.

His house is in the village though;

He will not see me stopping here

To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer

To stop without a farmhouse near

Between the woods and frozen lake

The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake

To ask if there is some mistake.

The only other sound's the sweep

Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep.

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

Stop cribbing start acting

Each one of us are responsible for making our country a better place and I am so glad to see a lot of awareness in the importance of voting. I had never given it much of a thought earlier but I knew for sure that if we wanted things to get better all of us have to play an integral part.

I do understand the importance of voting and I feel really bad that I haven't till date used this right of mine to choose who runs our country. There was a point in my life when I had thought that the awareness about voting should reach the masses and this was years ago. I guess after that I didn't bother to do anything in this regard. I guess its better late than never!

The change would be a gradual one but this has to start and there is a tiny ray of hope that our country will be one amongst the well run countries. We do have all the potential and youth is our future so I am so looking forward to new blood in politics. Only this can bring about a change in our political system. Thinking of it no single party has a strong contender for the position of PM. Everyone is either forming alliances or parting ways to long held alliances. It would be interesting to see the outcome of these assembly elections.

It is never good to be content with things happening around us. We are all getting used to the fact that corruption is a part of our lives and we have been living this way. We all hope for the best and that starts by voting. So, I hope those who thing it doesn't matter, please think again.

Take care and get yourselves registered asap!!!!

Thank for taking time to read :-)